Five years ago today I was getting so excited for my first trip to Las Vegas. So many changes were about to happen to me. Five months prior, my boyfriend bought a ring. Two months later, he proposed with it and we found out we were going to be parents. A big wedding really wasn't feasable and so my husband to be proposed a small wedding in Vegas and it was set. We found a chapel that would stream our wedding on the internet so that the majority of family and friends who could not make it in person could still experience the occasion. It was so easy to plan. We bought a package through the chapel and tailored it to our needs. Two years prior to all of this, on a crazy whim, I bought a wedding dress and swore to my friend that was with me that I would marry Eric in it. She had given me the "Your insane. He hasn't even proposed yet." look but supported my decision anyway. Well, this dress was a size four and while the top part still fit, my stomach was starting to show. So, my wonderful seamstress aunt, helped me to let it out so it fit.
We boarded the plane and after several hours of flying over nothing but desert and mountains, there finally shimmers an oasis before us.
We met Sheldon, the best man, at the airport and took a shuttle to our pyramid hotel and casino, the Luxor.
There we met up with the three other guests that made up our wedding party. They took off for a ball game and we made final arrangements including going to the Clarke County courthouse to obtain our license and picked up a tux.
We all met back in the spa suite where the boys stayed and the girls went out for dinner.
The next morning we ordered extravagant room service and I went downstairs to the salon and spa to get primped while the girls went shopping. I was the frist to arrive back at the room and quietly slipped into my dress and looked out the window for a while, taking it all in. The busy city below me excited me and yet the enormity of what I was about to do never once gave me the jitters. When my friends returned, Dana did my makeup and we went downstairs to the lobby. As I made my way to the waiting limo, I got cheers and applause which put a big grin on my face. I was getting married!!
We arrived at the Little Chapel of the Flowers where I met with the minister and we discussed the ceremony. I signed my name on the dotted line and Dana signed hers. She then took me by the arm and we took a deep breath and I half hopped, half walked down the aisle towards my smiling groom.
The ceremony in it's entirety took about 8 minutes. During most of that I wore this nervious smile and for the life of my I don't know why. But as soon as I heard the words "pronounce you husband and wife", that expression faded and the happy cheeseball grin returned. After 4 1/2 years with this man, I was now his wife.
Photo time came and went and we went back to the hotel to change and see about dinner. Alas, we made a grave error. When in Vegas on a Saturday night, make reservations. We assumed that with all the restaurants and all the choices, we didn't need to......yeah, you need to. We eventually did find a decent spot at Mandalay Bay and after an almost 2 hour wait. We dropped the most money we have ever spent on a dinner and baby Jason decided to make me throw up a perfectly wonderful $65 steak but it was still a wonderful meal. The night didn't end there. Dana and Brian had a memorable wedding gift in store for us and we made our way up the Las Vegas Strip to see Cirque de Soliel's Zumanity at New York, New York. The show was incredible. Aerialists performing unreal stunts,topless contortionists, and an artisty all it's own. The evening ended with a return to our Egyptian themed paradise and a wonderful first night's sleep with the man I now get to spend the rest of my life with.
(for more pictures and a video, they are on Facebook =)
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Monday, February 6, 2012
Letter to the School Board
To Whom it May Concern,
My husband is a 5th grade teacher in this county. Aside from being the most hardworking man I have ever met, he is also one of the most positive. However, we both find it disheartening that the education system, especially here, is in a total state of decline. I am writing this letter, not only to inform you of the conditions and circumstances of which he has struggled through but also to make the public more aware of the fact that while public scrutiny of the education system often falls on the teachers, it is in fact a misguided and misplaced judgment.
I would like to start by addressing teacher pay. Teaching often is held in the same esteem as doctors and lawyers as a profession in general. However, the average salary of a doctor is $250,000 and a lawyer is $110,000. My husband after almost 14 years of teaching does not even break $40,000 a year. Granted, he does get 9 weeks off in the summer but even taking this into account, the 60 hours a week he dedicates at the school working only amounts to a salary of $14/hr. By law, the Department of Labor requires overtime pay for more than 40 hours per week, but that doesn't happen for teachers, does it. For a profession with so much at stake, and the youth of America in its hands, a higher degree with a minimum of a Bachelors degree is required and in some states often a Masters. But for a profession with so much training required and years of experience, my husband is paid the same as the starting salary for a migrant worker tending your lawn, a hotel cleaning person, a telemarketer who calls you at dinnertime and a file clerk. Since 2007, you have frozen teacher pay, raised healthcare costs while reducing benefits, and long before that taken away any bonuses teachers might have earned. Since 2007, my husband and I started a family and had two children, doubling our household and our expenses. Due to your rise in insurance costs, my husband makes less now than what he did 6 years ago. More than 70% of North Carolina teachers moonlight in order to make ends meet, including my husband, but unfortunately, as is our case, the ends still don't meet. I wrote inquiring as to the salary of the board members and assumed it was public record, as is the salary of teachers and other state jobs but the funny thing was, that information could not be found and I have received no response back from the board regarding such.
As far as the working conditions of teachers, I have to say it is simply deplorable for someone who is holding a title of a working professional. Within a ten hour day, my husband receives 10 minutes for lunch, if that. There are no bathroom breaks for at least an 8 hour period of time. Childcare laws state that the teacher child ratio for school age children is a maximum of 1:25 however public school class sizes regularly exceed that number in elementary schools. These sizes make it extraordinarily difficult to do any actual teaching since discipline takes up about 80% of class time and the one on one time that many children need with the IEP's is simply impossible to maintain. In a world run by technology and advancement, you have provided my husband with textbooks that are usually out of date and 3 classroom computers for the use of 27 students. These are the tools that the students have to use on a daily basis and school supplies such as paper, pencils and notebooks are more often provided by the teacher than the parents. Keep in mind that the same tools you have equipped your teachers to teach with are the same tools that have been provided decades before in a world where even McDonald's now provides their employees with updated and modern equipment. Society's behavior on a whole is out of control in my opinion, but for now, we are going to limit it to the behavior in schools.
The authority of a teacher in their own classroom has been crippled completely by the lack of parenting, and the rules you have made out of fear that support it. The few students left in the classroom that have any manners and respect at all as well as the teachers are subjected to be at the mercy of those children and their parents who have none. Those parents that come in screaming the loudest about the unfair treatment of their children are all too often the same ones wreaking havoc and bullying the teachers, administrators and you. You let this happen. Teaching, in essence was originally intended to be just that, spreading the wealth of knowledge. By implementing such absurdities as character education instead of taking on the bullies and telling them that as parents, it is THEIR job to build and instill the foundation of character in their children, you have accepted their own lack of character and accountability and placed that burden onto a teacher to complete in 185 days. Now you have placed an even more insane measure of accountability on these teachers by forcing them to teach to a test, which is highly regarded publically as a disservice to the education of our children. For the public that doesn't know, I will clarify. If the End of Grade test scores are below a certain level, starting next year, that teacher in grades 3 and up is in jeopardy of losing their job. Even more ludicrous is that fact that teachers in grades K-2 will also have their jobs in jeopardy if the test scores do not reflect adequate results.
As a mother, wife, and former teacher as well as part of this community I am sorely disappointed in the careless hypocrisy that is used to fast deteriorate this county's schools. Because of the reckless way in which our school systems continue to allocate funds, take on new and untested theoretical programs, and implement impossible tasks. The best part is, the teachers take the brunt of all the speculation, criticism, and judgment when in all actuality, it is you and the public that should be held accountable for the decline of our public schools. All I have seen from my end is a bunch of hard working teachers up against the Goliath of public failures. The public needs to take action and until they start looking at the decision makers and holding them accountable instead of placing blame on the teachers on the front lines, the decline will continue. I encourage each of you to take a week and put yourself in a classroom as a facilitator so that when making decisions, you can see the actual impact of them. I wish the public could do the same. Maybe then, positive change could be brought about.
My husband is a 5th grade teacher in this county. Aside from being the most hardworking man I have ever met, he is also one of the most positive. However, we both find it disheartening that the education system, especially here, is in a total state of decline. I am writing this letter, not only to inform you of the conditions and circumstances of which he has struggled through but also to make the public more aware of the fact that while public scrutiny of the education system often falls on the teachers, it is in fact a misguided and misplaced judgment.
I would like to start by addressing teacher pay. Teaching often is held in the same esteem as doctors and lawyers as a profession in general. However, the average salary of a doctor is $250,000 and a lawyer is $110,000. My husband after almost 14 years of teaching does not even break $40,000 a year. Granted, he does get 9 weeks off in the summer but even taking this into account, the 60 hours a week he dedicates at the school working only amounts to a salary of $14/hr. By law, the Department of Labor requires overtime pay for more than 40 hours per week, but that doesn't happen for teachers, does it. For a profession with so much at stake, and the youth of America in its hands, a higher degree with a minimum of a Bachelors degree is required and in some states often a Masters. But for a profession with so much training required and years of experience, my husband is paid the same as the starting salary for a migrant worker tending your lawn, a hotel cleaning person, a telemarketer who calls you at dinnertime and a file clerk. Since 2007, you have frozen teacher pay, raised healthcare costs while reducing benefits, and long before that taken away any bonuses teachers might have earned. Since 2007, my husband and I started a family and had two children, doubling our household and our expenses. Due to your rise in insurance costs, my husband makes less now than what he did 6 years ago. More than 70% of North Carolina teachers moonlight in order to make ends meet, including my husband, but unfortunately, as is our case, the ends still don't meet. I wrote inquiring as to the salary of the board members and assumed it was public record, as is the salary of teachers and other state jobs but the funny thing was, that information could not be found and I have received no response back from the board regarding such.
As far as the working conditions of teachers, I have to say it is simply deplorable for someone who is holding a title of a working professional. Within a ten hour day, my husband receives 10 minutes for lunch, if that. There are no bathroom breaks for at least an 8 hour period of time. Childcare laws state that the teacher child ratio for school age children is a maximum of 1:25 however public school class sizes regularly exceed that number in elementary schools. These sizes make it extraordinarily difficult to do any actual teaching since discipline takes up about 80% of class time and the one on one time that many children need with the IEP's is simply impossible to maintain. In a world run by technology and advancement, you have provided my husband with textbooks that are usually out of date and 3 classroom computers for the use of 27 students. These are the tools that the students have to use on a daily basis and school supplies such as paper, pencils and notebooks are more often provided by the teacher than the parents. Keep in mind that the same tools you have equipped your teachers to teach with are the same tools that have been provided decades before in a world where even McDonald's now provides their employees with updated and modern equipment. Society's behavior on a whole is out of control in my opinion, but for now, we are going to limit it to the behavior in schools.
The authority of a teacher in their own classroom has been crippled completely by the lack of parenting, and the rules you have made out of fear that support it. The few students left in the classroom that have any manners and respect at all as well as the teachers are subjected to be at the mercy of those children and their parents who have none. Those parents that come in screaming the loudest about the unfair treatment of their children are all too often the same ones wreaking havoc and bullying the teachers, administrators and you. You let this happen. Teaching, in essence was originally intended to be just that, spreading the wealth of knowledge. By implementing such absurdities as character education instead of taking on the bullies and telling them that as parents, it is THEIR job to build and instill the foundation of character in their children, you have accepted their own lack of character and accountability and placed that burden onto a teacher to complete in 185 days. Now you have placed an even more insane measure of accountability on these teachers by forcing them to teach to a test, which is highly regarded publically as a disservice to the education of our children. For the public that doesn't know, I will clarify. If the End of Grade test scores are below a certain level, starting next year, that teacher in grades 3 and up is in jeopardy of losing their job. Even more ludicrous is that fact that teachers in grades K-2 will also have their jobs in jeopardy if the test scores do not reflect adequate results.
As a mother, wife, and former teacher as well as part of this community I am sorely disappointed in the careless hypocrisy that is used to fast deteriorate this county's schools. Because of the reckless way in which our school systems continue to allocate funds, take on new and untested theoretical programs, and implement impossible tasks. The best part is, the teachers take the brunt of all the speculation, criticism, and judgment when in all actuality, it is you and the public that should be held accountable for the decline of our public schools. All I have seen from my end is a bunch of hard working teachers up against the Goliath of public failures. The public needs to take action and until they start looking at the decision makers and holding them accountable instead of placing blame on the teachers on the front lines, the decline will continue. I encourage each of you to take a week and put yourself in a classroom as a facilitator so that when making decisions, you can see the actual impact of them. I wish the public could do the same. Maybe then, positive change could be brought about.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Spring is in the Air
It has been very hard to imagine that for the past two months it has been winter here, given that the normal temperature is usually in the high 60's and the sky is bright blue with the sun blazing above. In fact, the seems a bit more like we skipped strait from Fall to Spring. Being such it has thrown my yearly internal clock off kilter. For instance, the past couple of days it has been sunny, clear and around 70 degrees outside. It is at this point that my Spring inner workings start processing the part of my crainium that says "Project Time!!!". Now I know it is only February and our funds are still limited but everywhere I look in this house, I see a project waiting to happen. So this week, i finally caved to my urges and started off small by creating a tile border around one very plain mirror in my bathroom. This then spread to putting a border around the ugly light fixture above that mirror and voila, my need has been somewhat quenched and for very little time and effort. I have managed to "pretty up" in a minor way but it is always the little details that can make a big difference. SO now what? left twiddling my thumbs yet again, the itch begins and there is so much I want to do. I want my bathroom fixtures replaced. I want to paint and panel the bathrooms and Katie's room. I want a tile backsplash in the kitchen. My yard.....Jesus, my yard. If I could get a whole new yard dropped around the house, that would be great. My poor Mercedes sits longingly in the driveway, begging for some attention. The problem with these things is a seemingly large amount of funding. So I have to do these projects a little at a time and in between take on free projects in between.
So far, I have a few lined up. Painting is the first thing that comes to mind. In case you were wondering, A.C. Moore has an insane sale on canvases. So I bought in bulk and am going to get inspired. Acrylic paint is also on sale which I have decided I like much better than oil. I also have a sketch book I need to take to a park sometime and just freehand. My family history is an ongoing work in progress. Irecently found more information on my grandmother's side of the family which I think I have made sense of but now have to retype so it makes sense to anyone who ever reads it. Ghost hunting comes next. Well, I joined a group hoping to actually do more of this than freelancing in graveyards on my own but unfortunately all my group has done is meet at a pool hall and eat drink and play pool. So I am hoping next month to actually start doing something relevant. I have a lot of the equipment, just need a site. If you read this and know of anywhere, let me know. Music is still there but more in the background since I have felt less compelled to play and I am working to understand why that is. My cooking skills are improving thanks to the lack of funds for always eating out and I can often get creative with dinner just as easily as I can with cakes even though cakes are so much sweeter.
The way I figure it is that I am chosing to spend my time and energy on positive things wheras a year ago, I could not really say that. It is good to be involved in things and I like having the freedom and time to explore my options. People don't get enough of that these days. I am just very glad and very thankful I have the help and support I need to be one of the lucky few.
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Humanity and the Legal System at it's Finest
Today has left me feeling extremely frustrated with people in general and the legal system in all it's glory. My day starts by waking up thinking about a problem that has plagued me for almost a year now. Last February I gave a guy $300 and an old saddle that my Granny had given me before she died in hopes that he would restore it. He had a website showing previous work and assured me it would be completed in two weeks time. As the months drug on he kept assuring me he was working on it always making excuses. Then at the end of the summer he moved to Indiana and stole my saddle and took it with him. He has continued to lie to me telling me he has it and he will send it. I even told him I would sue him and I wasn't kidding. I looked into it, received the paperwork and everything. The problem is this. The cost of filing suit and either hiring a lawyer or flying out there to appear in court could be covered by the money I would receive when I undoubtedly would win. But I would never see a dime, just like I will probably never see that saddle again. You see, Charlie is a drunk pathetic loser who spends every measly dime he makes on booze and women. You cannot squeeze blood out of a drunken stone. I cannot file here where cost would be signifigantly less because he doesn't live here. SO because that sorry sad sack ran off with my property, I get screwed if I go after him. Thank you legal system.
Then I am browsing facebook and come across an article where a drug addict with two boys already gives birth to a baby girl and ten days later, puts her infant in the washer with the laundry and passes out in a drug induced sleep. The baby was found during the spin cycle by the mother's aunt very much dead. The family had been fighting to have all 3 children removed since the mother had a bad drug history but the courts allowed her to keep her children and now an infant baby girl is dead. When did the courts start protecting the guilty and letting the innocent pay? Our legal system has become to big for it's own britches. So many rulings and laws are made based off one case where mistakes were made trying to make fairness in effect, retroactive, when in fact all they have done is make it unfair for the rest of people going forward. Think of it this way; a tangled knot, much like legality has to be untangled in order to be straitened out. The bigger the knot, the harder it is to untangle. The more string used, the more of a mess you have. Our legal system needs to stop adding string to the knot and stop getting so wound up in the legality of things that it loses sight of what is right. Not saying that we should go back to the days of hanging horse theives but back then you never heard of anyone getting off on a technicality. The law was made to protect the innocent but more and more that ideal is slipping away, one technicality after another. We need to start over. We need to start looking at the bigger picture and the legal system and the government need to stop avoiding the big picture of what is wrong with this country by focusing on things like gay marraige that hurts no one, and start focusing on restoring morality and a little bit of virtue to this country's crumbing structure.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
A New Year Ahead
First Day of 2012 and for most of us, it is an optimistic day. Odd really...it is just an ordinary day. It has no religious meaning an celebrates no one special. It is just a day on a calendar really. But it signals hope for so many. Hope that in the next 365 days, change will happen and things will become better. So in the Spirit of this newfound hope for change resolutions are made and faith in oneself becomes somewhat restored. In spite of impending holiday bills and the bitter chill in the air (unless you live here) a more positive spirit starts to stir and the simple jump from one month to another becomes a fresh start. So, what do I plan to do with my fresh start? I plan to relish life since last year I started out as a shattered and broken woman. The ties that matter in my life are mostly positive ones, at least the people are. This year, I have a choice and my mind is clearer in order to make the right ones. I am going to find out what truly makes me tick. I am going to explore every passion in my life and be as eclectic and interesting as possible. I am going to take on new projects without fear and finish some unfinished projects. I am going to find and follow a path to financial stability on the more serious side of things and continue to try my best as a scholar. On the flip side, I believe my personality could use some improving as well. I am going to try to be more vivacious and when opportunities arise, I am going to try harder to recognize them as they come and embrace my chances wholeheartedly. Unconditional love has always been an issue for me since it has mostly been met with obliterating blows. But I am wise enough to know who derserves it at this point and I am going to try harder to show that to those who give it to me every day.
I know everyone says they are going to shed the pounds as a resolution but I have been fighting this losing battle for about a year now and giving it a very half ass attempt, I might add. But for the sake of my own self esteem and the little shred of vanity I still possess. I know most people say for health reasons or some crap like that but if I said that I would be lying. I think this simply means smaller portions and even the smallest bit of regular exercise (at least that is what I have been told). I plan on relishing my children. I do this anyway but I want them to know it. I want my daughter to know that Snuggling her is the best thing in the world for me and that I would drop everything to do it. I want my son to know that all the things we do together are cherished by me. All the cooking, crafts, and games we play together I hope stick with him forever like they will with me. I want my husband to know that still have not forgotten how a night breaking into a car with a fishing pole can end and how much all the little surprises really mean to me.
Basically, I want to live better, act stronger, and be more. I want to waste less time and gain more moments and memories. I want that feeling you get after seeing a riveting movie where just for a moment, as you walk out of that theatre, you feel like maybe, just maybe, you could be that hero or heroine, and maybe, just maybe, I too can take on the world and win.
Friday, December 16, 2011
Multi Faceted
On my road to self discovery, I am finding more and more out about myself. Today, I learned that many people see me in many ways and that I have a multitude of interests that shape who I am and how each person sees me differently. My life has never been about just one thing and that is the way I like it. It is easy to give people a name based on their career or passionate interest but I don't know if that subject could be narrowed down for me. What brought all this up for me was an opportunity for a part time job that I really would love to have working with the Historical Society. History has always been an interest for me but few people know this. It was always more of a self indulgent hobby that I kept more or less to myself. It is one that I have found myself persuing in the last few months and really enjoying. The other interest that I have become more involved in these past several months is paranormal investigations.
Since I was 14 I have found myself in a job that I had to have that I never really enjoyed. Teaching came close but there were too many hassles associated with it (parents, idiotic school boards and admin). This is the first time in my working adult life that I have taken a break from work, taken a good step back, and re evaluated what I WANTED to do, not what I should or have to do. For the first time, it feels like it is up to me to decide my own fate and I can play around with that a little. So why these two hobbies?
People who have known me for a while know my obvious passions such as horses, children, singing and music. But these are all the same things I have been involved with since childhood. It seemed time to discover what other things I enjoy, not that I wanted to give these up, just add to them. So I have. The Paranormal and history go hand in hand. History fascinates me, especially the Civil War/Victorian era. Every time I see a picture or am at museum or watch a tv show, I wonder what it was like to live then. When I think about the paranormal, I don't really imagine Slimer from Ghostbusters. To me, it is the unknown gateway or connection to answering that very question of what was it like. If you could try and communicate to the past, why wouldn't you at least try? Worst case, you end up sitting in the dark, talking to yourself like a fool and I know I have done more foolhardy things than that.
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Television These Days
I have found myself watching TV less and less these days. The common response to this is usually "good for you". However, my reasoning for this is for no other reason than the content.
The reality shows on TV boggle my mind and the popularity is something that completely confuses me. Watching shows like Teen Mom, Jersey Shore and Real Housewives in my humble opinion has no entertainment value and only shows people how to emulate bad behavior. If you want to see bad behavior, just go to Wal Mart. Why are networks paying teenage parents to neglect their children and behave horribly? Why are they paying entitled drama filled rich people even more money to behave badly on camera? Why is Snooki, a drunk fat skank a television icon with her own doll and Halloween costume?
Is this what has become of our world? Teen mothers, rich drama queens, and stupid drunks have become our idols and hero's? Why did this happen? What do the adults loving these shows, teach their children? Do the fans of these shows even stop to ponder this? A better question is, how can we turn society around? Media has a huge impact on our society whether we like it or not. I believe that is where reform should start. So if anyone even reads this, do your future and society a favor and watch shows with actual heros and heroines or watch cartoons. Not saying only watch PBS but be mindful of the things you watch and the morals you display.
The reality shows on TV boggle my mind and the popularity is something that completely confuses me. Watching shows like Teen Mom, Jersey Shore and Real Housewives in my humble opinion has no entertainment value and only shows people how to emulate bad behavior. If you want to see bad behavior, just go to Wal Mart. Why are networks paying teenage parents to neglect their children and behave horribly? Why are they paying entitled drama filled rich people even more money to behave badly on camera? Why is Snooki, a drunk fat skank a television icon with her own doll and Halloween costume?
Is this what has become of our world? Teen mothers, rich drama queens, and stupid drunks have become our idols and hero's? Why did this happen? What do the adults loving these shows, teach their children? Do the fans of these shows even stop to ponder this? A better question is, how can we turn society around? Media has a huge impact on our society whether we like it or not. I believe that is where reform should start. So if anyone even reads this, do your future and society a favor and watch shows with actual heros and heroines or watch cartoons. Not saying only watch PBS but be mindful of the things you watch and the morals you display.
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